I don't have a lot of social media or chat accounts, and, if I have, I prefer to keep them private. That's why I prefer to communicate through email. If you can, please encrypt your email through GPG. Add my public key to your keyring with this command.
curl https://benicio.neocities.org/public.key | gpg --import
One chat protocol that I really like and is not spyware is matrix. You can find me there as @mandarinna:matrix.org. I still have to try XMPP, though.